How are you doing? Fab i'm sure. It's funny how sometimes you just have so much to write about and other times you just don't feel like writing anything at all. The last 2 days just breezed by like it was 5 minutes. I was looking forward to getting back to school runs next week, but the kids school moved the resumption date back (cross eyes); so I get to have another week of 'part leave'. And the work keeps piling higher and higher and higher. Okay, so check this out. My attention was drawn (thanks to social media and trending etc) to Wendy William's recent comments on women, marriage, and career. According to the interview:
"Never one to shy away
from provocative points of view, she is unabashed about the challenges women
face in balancing the intense demands of both career and family. “My suggestion
to women is always…use your entire 20s to work your behind off in your career…
And then think about meeting that guy,” cautions the 50-year-old. “‘Cause we’re
the ones that lose in marriage. Not men.”
She
further points out buyer beware: “It is difficult for men to accept
really successful career women. Whether it be that we out-earn them or that our
name is brighter than theirs. I also feel like marriage and babies stunt
a woman’s growth career-wise…Once you get married and have kids, you can’t do
all the things that you used to do and maintain this important precious thing
that you built as a family.” Full article here.
Do you agree? Well... I totally agree with the parts that I underlined. The other parts which are quite controversial for me are;
1) Do we lose in marriage? Ummn I don't think lose is the right word. Yes we are usually the one's to sacrifice more (physically, emotionally, etc); but we gain a whole lot of love from our children etc.
2) Do babies stunt a woman's growth career-wise? Well... I certainly agree to an extent. For a duration; yes. But the controversy here for me is... For how long? And can a woman really recover from that? and
3) Once you get married you can't do all the things that you used to do... Definitely true lolll. But you can try to get back some of it. With this one, should one just let go; or should one keep fighting till you start doing ALL the things you used to do.
The information is a lot to take in especially for someone who isn't or hasn't been married. I had a conversation at the office one.. Can a woman really have it all? Can a woman be a huge success across the board. We talked and talked about it (you can hardly find that many women who has). Moderate success across the board yes! But huge across the board; not many. Meaning you're like a Folorunsho Alakija in business; a Joyce Meyer spiritually; a Kim Kadarshian physically; a Martha Stewart in the kitchen; a '17 & counting' kind of mother with at least 3 or 4 kids; a gymnast in the bedroom etc. Unfortunately that is not too possible. Hence balance for a woman is key. Better to be balanced across board than to be completely lacking in one area. A woman's life is challenging and we need to rise to it. Wisdom is key. Let's ruminate on this for a while; i shall surely come back to it and dissect it into smaller areas for us to learn about.
I leave you with this:
James 1:5
"If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth
to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him".
L8r
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